Our fallen culture teaches us many things that harm people and distort God’s design for males and females. We can make a list of different issues about this matter pero ang isa sa mga main issues that we are going to address is about “same-sex” relationships.

The question is, “Is it a sin to love someone and be in a relationship with the same sex?”

To answer this question correctly, let’s analyze the two problems in this question that I found confusing to people when they hear it and it has something to do with the meaning of these two words: 1) what does “love” mean here? and 2) what does relationship mean here?

Malilito ka talaga if we cannot define the meaning of “love” and “relationship” in the context of this question.

In other words, this question has two questions in one question. Tanong about “love” at tanong tungkol sa “relationship.”

I think this is a problem because, first, the word “love” has various meanings depending on the person. For example, for Linda, “love” means “friendly care,” but for Lando, “love” means “sexual intercourse,” while for Diego, “love” means “romantic relationship.”

Iba-iba sila ng kahulugan at pananaw sa salitang “love” o “pagibig.”

Secondly, ang kahulugan ng “relationship” ay iba-iba din. To some, it’s an “emotional connection,” while to others it’s a “spiritual connectedness.” Sa iba naman, it’s like a “mutual or shared bond between two people,” it could be in “blood,” “covenant,” or a “vow” between two people or “sexual (in marriage, opposite sex).”

But let’s approach the question by answering it from two perspectives.

The question is, “Is it a sin to love someone and be in a relationship with the same sex?”

YES! It is a SIN if you Go Against God’s design for male and female affection and relationships.

The Bible is clear on this matter. Same-sex romantic love is NOT the will of God. If a male has sexual affection for another male, as if they are lifetime partners, whether living in cohabitation or separated, he is committing a sin against God.

In the Bible, it is called “homosexuality,” to make it more accurate, it is called “Sodomy.”

Genesis 19:5 says, “and they called to Lot and said to him, “Where are the men who came to you tonight? Bring them out to us that we may have relations (sexual act) with them.”

Yahweh destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah because of their wicked practices that were rooted in their wicked affection and desires. One notable sin is homosexuality or same-sex relations and prostitution.

Dito natin nakuha yung word na “sodomites” which means people who practice homosexuality or same-sex relationship. It is an abnormal, unnatural affection, action, or behavior with the same gender. Whether it is an emotional affection or sexual action with the same sex, the Bible’s verdict is clear: it is a sin against God.

Sex and any romantic affection are only designed between male and female relationships in wedlock.

Remember, affection drives our actions. When the mind gives in to this cultural and Satanic deception, the emotion and inclination of any man will become slaves to wrong ideologies.

Matthew 5:27-28 says, “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

Ooops, adultery agad? Why did I cite this text? It’s about adultery. Ano ba ang point ni Jesus here?

For the Lord Jesus, affection is the core. Actions are just the manifestations of man’s desire, whether good or bad. In this passage, adultery is undoubtedly a SIN, and it begins from the heart. Like our topic, if a male or female has an abnormal affection for the same sex, he or she is committing sin, and this sin is also aggravated when it continues to normalize and affirmed through entering a homosexual romantic and sexual relationship.

Can a female marry another female, or can a male marry another male? NO WAY! It is already settled in the eyes of God from Genesis to Revelation that marriage is exclusively between a man and a woman and so sex.

Is it a sin? The answer is unequivocally and a resounding “yes!” The other answer to the question, “Is it a sin to love someone and be in a relationship with the same sex?”

NO! it is NOT a SIN if what you mean by “love and relationship” Follows God’s design for male and female.

On the positive side, we all have a relationship with the same gender. What do I mean by this? Well, I do not imply a sexual or romantic relationship but a healthy, God-honoring, brotherly, and familial love for people of the same gender. That’s what I mean.

All of us have friends of the same gender. I have many male friends and love them, but my love for them is not like how I love my wife. My love for my male friends is brotherly and familial, and this applies to my female friends as well.

Only my wife can experience my romantic affection and intimate love spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically or sexually in the marriage bed and not to anyone else. This is the design of God.

So, can a male or a female show love to the same gender? Yes, if it is the right kind of love, a God-honoring love that described by Jesus and the Bible.

Can a man or woman express affection to the same gender? Yes. Basta tama ang uri ng affection at hindi lumalagpas sa disenyo ng Lord for male and female.

Wrapping Up

Heterosexual males or females can commit the sin of adultery with the opposite sex within our hearts even without acting upon it. This applies to homosexual males or females. Sin begins from our hearts.

We are all sinners; it is absolutely wrong to say that homosexuals are more sinful than heterosexuals or vice-versa. Both are sinners; both need to be washed and saved by grace in Christ Jesus, and both need the Savior.

1Cor. 6:9-11 – ⁹ “Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, ¹⁰ nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God. ¹¹ Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God.

We must know our design and follow the Lord’s will for us as male or female. Whether you are a male or female struggling with heterosexual or homosexual sins, you must repent from it, completely turn away from this sin, and seek God’s forgiveness, grace, and salvation in Jesus.

Lastly, let’s show the right kind of love for every person by telling the truth about God’s will for each gender (male and female) and by showing the love of Christ to all through a gospel-centered lifestyle.

The Lord is gracious to save you from this sin. Come and be saved.